What Not To Say to a Pregnant Woman Part Deux


I am not one of those ladies who barely looks pregnant, gains only 10 pounds and bounces back three seconds after the baby is born. That's not my style, as we say. Instead I get HUGE. I mean big. I gain about 40 pounds and lose it all except for 10 pounds or so until I stop breast feeding.

Then, I have the permanently pregnant stomach (I have lamented about this before here), and I get the fun of everyone asking "me if I am pregnant when I have a newborn. Ah, the joys of being a woman.

So it is with this pregnancy, being 7 months now, (okay it happened at three months), that I am big. My stomach is huge and it brings out the best in people. (Hello sarcasm? It's me The Mrs.)

Things people have said:

You're Huge!
Look how big you are?
Are you gonna make it to the end?
When are you due? (read: holy moly you are big)
How much longer? (Cause you are about to pop now)
Are you sure you're not having twins?
You're all belly!! (right, not when you are making up for the above comments)
and just general laughter at the sight of me...


This happened last time. I should expect it. I had a guy yell out the window to me last time and ask:"you havin' triplets?"

My friend called the other day and tell me that a friend of hers, upon seeing her in heels and after having a baby two months ago, said "you're Giant! Hello Giant!" She burst into tears naturally...

So take my advice and leave us pregnant girls and new mothers alone.

Here is my sanctioned list of what you can say to us:


1) You look amazing!
2) You're all tummy! (and mean it!)
3) You're so tall! (there you go, instead of giant!)
4) You look beautiful.
5) pregnancy agrees with you! What a glow!
and my personal favorite:
6) I'd love to take you out to lunch!

There you have it. Stick to the list. Trust me.


Ps I think I am rockin' some Drew Barrymore Golden Globe hair!

36 comments:

PaperCourt said...

You do look great! I was going to comment on your FB picture. I got the same comments during my pregnancies and you know I still get the "are you pregnant" questions! I would totally take you to lunch if I lived near you :-)

ilovepink said...

I had a patient call me "fatty" last week! Hello...I have sharp instruments in my hand! Is she crazy?

Pink in a sea of blue said...

Bless your heart! I got that, too, but I had swollen feet and legs, too! Ugh! Why do people feel they can blurt out anything to pregnant women. I don't think any of these people go up to an overweight person and exclaim "Gee, you're FAT!"

ilovepink said...

PS: You look great....and I mean it!

Nantucket Karen said...

I agree with every part of your "sanctioned list".....YOU TRULY DO LOOK GORGEOUS :) I'm soooo
jealous of all that PINK that will be in your home soon!!
p.s. just don't tease the hair the way Drew did!! The color Rocks!

Mossback Meadow said...

Yes, I've had all those comments.
: /
From one pregnant woman to another, I think you look fabulous! And really, all tummy.

I am 32 weeks now - yikes!

Lori said...

Ok, my first thought when I saw you and BEFORE reading this post was "Wow, you look fabulous!" And that's the honest truth. You look great and you are NOT HUGE! Gorgeous, glowing mama!

MommyK said...

I didn't mind being asked when I was due. What I did mind was the "Are you STILL pregnant?" I was tempted to say back, "Oh I had the baby last week. This is a pillow."

My SIL worked up until she delivered and people kept asking her when she was going to have the baby. She wanted to have a t-shirt made that said, "I am not psychic, I have no F-ing clue. When he gets here."

Preppy 101 said...

What about - Oh, you haven't gained a pound; you're all baby. . .

Mom x 2 said...

I think you look beautiful. I cannot believe anyone would make the twins comment - SO RUDE!

I'm at that stage where I look pregnant but people aren't sure. So they say, "How ARE you?" in a way that I must explain why my belly is getting big.

Jen said...

Oh I so agree with you! What are these people thinking when they say "can you make it all the way?" Ah!

Legallyblondemel said...

Amen! Honestly, people.

And I think you look glowing and terrific in that photo, Drew Barrymore hair (which I for one adored) and all!

Melissa said...

I honestly think you look great! I can't believe you're already 7 months along! I feel like you just told us you're pregnant!

Angry Julie Monday said...

Big hugs! You are beautiful!

The Major's Wife said...

must add you look fabulous to the list cause you do!!!

Muffy said...

People can be so rude. I am confident you look terrific!!!

Clare said...

you look beautiful!! i am totally the same way, gained over 40 lbs with Bradley...there is just nothing little about that!! I love your list of things to say...we need to pass that around!

Barefoot in the Park said...

you look absolutely glowing and fabulous!!!

Sweet Pea Chef said...

I totally agree. How about also:

"You make motherhood look *so* good!"

(it's the truth)

Angie said...

You look great!!! I love your list of acceptable things to say, so true!!!

WPMomOf2 (jen) said...

You look so cute!!! :)) I got bigger with my second pregnancy, compared to my first.

Petunia said...

I swear even before I read your list at the end--all I could think was You Look Beautiful!
Just ignore the numbskulls who say otherwise!

Always Organizing said...

You are just adorable!!! What is wrong with people saying the dumbest things to pregnant ladies?

Preppy Sue said...

You look fantastic and happy most importantly! Not even close to Drew's hair-don't.

Misty said...

You look amazing.......

Europafox said...

I think t-shirts for pregant ladies should be made, with tyour recommended list of comments printed on them! On another note, I have left an aware for you on my blog!

The Shabby Princess said...

You look perfect!!

I have never been pregnant, so, I don't know what I would and wouldn't want said to me, but, I believe that all pregnant women (OK, except for that crack whore my brother in law knocked up... oh, apologies, I have some feelings about that) look fantastic. For cryin' out loud, you're growin' a person in there! How crazy is that?

Honestly, I can't believe that people say things like "you're huge!" to a pregnant woman. Sheesh!!

And, if I lived in LA you can bet your booty that I'd be takin' you out for a lunch date right now!

Kate said...

Ugh...I remember the feeling huge part of pregnanct - not my favorite! You look fantastic though:)

Tres Poshe Preppy said...

YOU look fabulous! :-) People... what can you say.

Love your photo on the header, so cute! Happy New Year!

Midwest Prep said...

YOu said it!!! how about- can I take you for a pedicure! Why is it that my husband has not purchased me a spa day yet!!! I have dropped so many fricken hints it is ridiculous! I NEED A MASSAGE and a PEDI YOU BIRDBRAIN!!!
ok, I am clam now...I haven't been ssleeping much- can you tell?

Becky said...

Amen and amen and amen. Why oh why do people mess with we hormonal wrecks when all we're trying to do is survive to the end with a little bit of dignity and self-esteem intact???
I gave myself such a hard time for beginning to show at 11 weeks, but I'm making peace with it now. It's just my body, not my enemy! And I'll get it back one of these days.

Lauren said...

I think there needs to be a public service announcement concerning this. :)

You do look great though. I love the hair!

Happy Homemaker said...

One Fabulous Mom- I adore you!

You DO look fabulous! I love that picture! After having my two babies I was happy to have proof (in a picture) of where all those 50 pounds went!

Now, where do you want to have lunch?

Eloise said...

You look great! I've always thought you were pretty, but you are positively radiant since you've been expecting.

How is the nursery coming along? How is that sweet Landon?

AMY said...

This post made me laugh. You are so right. People don't always think about what they are saying. My favorite were the total strangers that walked up and touched my belly. YIKES! Can you say creepy?

I too am one of those that does it LARGE. I am only 5'3" and I gained 50 pounds with the first pregnancy. I was just puffy all over. I preferred for people to pretend they did not notice that I looked like a weeble wobble.

You look great! I hope you are feeling as good as you look. Enjoy carrying that little miracle for a couple more months.

The Bairds said...

I just had to google what "NOT" to say to a pregnant woman for research for my own blog, and you nailed it....I had an emotional breakdown today when a woman asked me if I was sure I wasn't having twins....I'm so glad I'm not the only one who is HUGE at 5 and 1/2 months.

Thank you for posting this!!