It was bound to happen. We've gone six years with relatively little comments on Landon's arm. Landon was born with a blood clot in his arm, it's a miracle they saved it, and his life....you can read more here.
Landon is not a victim. He doesn't feel sorry for himself. This is the only arm he has and is normal to him. We get stares sometimes, and I have tried to arm Landon for what to say about it. I even made a snapfish picture book about what happened and what a miracle he is.
But today, out of nowhere it happened.
Uglyness. Unkind words. Meanness. All of which I cannot stand....
I heard a kid calling out to me as I picked Landon up. At first I couldn't believe what I was hearing.
"What is wrong with his arm? That's DISGUSTING".
Praise the lord Landon was nowhere near.
"His arm is DISGUSTING."
I hold on to myself. This is a child. Calm yourself. Don't cry. Don't scream.
"It's not disgusting, it's a miracle. The doctors were going to have to cut off Landon's arm but they saved it. It's a miracle."
At first he was accepting of this answer but then...
"I don't like it. It's old looking"
"It's as old as he is. Six years old."
Landon runs over I walk away leaving a VERY HORRIFIED teachers aid to explain more. Please God give me patience....
He called us over.
"I want to see his arm".
Landon comes over and says his memorized line:
"I was born with it".
This child starts to rattle off all the things Landon "cannot" do. You can't play golf, basketball, with that arm.
Now the teachers aids blood is boiling.
"Yes he can. He can do anything you can do."
We left. The teachers aid was mouthing "love you" to me. She was happy we tried to teach this kid about miracles. I was upset. I asked Landon if anyone was mean about his arm. He said everyone was "pretty nice". It's hard. I want to help him but, no victims here.
Later I realized.
This is why. Why he came to me.
I am the perfect mother for Landon. This is what was meant to be. I can help him. I can defend him. I can teach people that saying "disgusting" is not right. I can help him be the best he can be. I am brave and he is brave.
And nothing is "disgusting" about that.