Seems like the older I get the more hard times people are facing. I mean really hard times. It's easy to be with someone when things are fabulous....
But can you sit......
In the PIT?
The pit of despair? Divorce? Cancer? Infertility? Aging parents? Sick kids? Alcoholism? Drug abuse? Can you sit with someone while they go through this? Can you sit with yourself while you go through this?
When I was in the PIT. People came to sit with me. Not everyone could do it. One time my PIT was 52 days in the NICU with Landon. People visiting had to endure seeing one pound babies going into constant cardiac arrest. There were tears. There were hands held. There were a thousand prayers said.
Another PIT was at Childrens Hospital for three weeks with Coco. Mystery illness with no end in site. People came. They sat in the pit. They talked me off the ledge. They brought me lunch. They brought me dinner. They cried with me.
The pit is scary because we're sometimes not sure of it's the bottom or we have to GO DEEPER. Going deeper than we're used to is frightening but enlightening. This is when we REALLY FIND OUT WHO WE ARE. It's intense. For us and our friends. That's why not everyone can do it.
Please I beg you. If you have a friend who is in the PIT. Go sit with them. Even being there, bearing witness, means everything. Show them they are NOT ALONE.
The PIT may even be grabbing a drink with a friend even though you're
tired. Or showing up with a meal. Or meeting for coffee. PITS can be
mental and physical after all.
AND if you're in the PIT you will make it out. There will be light coming in. Just wait for it.
I'm going to visit a friend in the PIT Tuesday while she has her second round of chemo. I'm scared. For her, for me, not knowing what to say or do....but I'm going. I have to. Because anyone who's been in the PIT knows. YOU HAVE TO GO.
Because you are someone's lifeline today.