When Mom's Attack

Don't ever underestimate a mom. 

We have been through a lot and I don't just mean surviving high school. We have been brought to the brink of our sanity in many ways. Forgetful husbands, ungrateful kids, homework, meal planning, carpooling, and just trying to work out one or two times a week. We are the plate spinners you see in the circus.

We are tired and were PISSED.

Which is why it's easy to have a disagreement. Whether it's on the fundraising committee for your school in the carpool line, in the office, or in your spin class, some mom is trying to piss us off.

And sometimes we attack. We can't help ourselves. Sometimes it feels good to just go off the deep end.

I've been guilty of this. I have attacked on mom on occasion. While it offers some initial relief. Afterwards I just end up feeling awful. Like a mean bully. I've been on the other end of that as well and it is really heartbreaking and infuriating.

But what if?

What if we all assumed, just by virtue of being mothers, that we are doing the best we can and have the best of intentions. That we're all in this crazy mess together. That there is no need to tear another woman down because, in essence you're tearing us all down. Let's face it moms are running the world. And we are raising the next generation of mothers.

When we attack another mom or bully another mom, or hurt another mom what are we showing our girls?

Disagreements can be mended and fixed. You know what can't be fixed? Terminal cancer. The death of a child. Divorce.

I knew a mom in preschool once. She was lovely. She was a good mother. And she died of cancer. Her Facebook page is still there. Sometimes it comes up on my feed. I want to write something to her. Instead I just remember I'm lucky to be alive. And so are you.

So before that disagreement with that mom becomes out of control... Fix it... Mend it.... Talk it out. 

Treat her like you would want to be treated.

Or like you wish you were treated...

Because when you attack one mom....you attack us ALL. 


Mary Beth said...

Fabulous post...and so true. Thanks for putting it out there! : )

Anonymous said...

Agreed times 1000
-Linda, ny