tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post7355356725982748330..comments2023-11-24T09:51:17.914-08:00Comments on One Fabulous Mom: The Dark Days Of MotherhoodThe Mrs.http://www.blogger.com/profile/05665800276194590859noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-665490020254695162009-05-13T20:17:00.000-07:002009-05-13T20:17:00.000-07:00Nobody told me how bad the first few months were g...Nobody told me how bad the first few months were going to be! I guess if I had known then I never would have become pregnant, so I'm glad I didn't know in a way. But I do wish someone would have been there to help me like 24/7 for the first -- oh, 6 months or so!!!Petuniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02784576982025256660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-79185769057257938082009-05-06T20:04:00.000-07:002009-05-06T20:04:00.000-07:00Feeling for you. I have a baby attached to my boob...Feeling for you. I have a baby attached to my boob as I type. No, seriously...I do. He is 15 wks now and things are much better, but I still have my days. This Mommy business is the hardest (and most rewarding)job I have ever had. The reflux makes everything harder. We finally switched Baby J from zantac to pepcid and it was a miracle drug. He still sleeps in his car seat and his naps have gone to ****. But, he slept 8 hours last night so compared to just a month ago I am a new person. We are just taking one day at a time. She will start sleeping and feeling better. Now, I am not quite sure how you do it with two. I'm scared. =) Hang in there!!!!!!!MMMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11804831491861558867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-20729812778013296252009-05-05T19:46:00.000-07:002009-05-05T19:46:00.000-07:00Hang in there! It does get better! As soon as Co...Hang in there! It does get better! As soon as Coco starts sleeping through the night, the whole world will take on a new look. It's amazing what a stretch of uninterrupted sleep will do for your sanity.<br /><br />I appreciate your candor and honesty. You're wise to reach out.<br /><br />Sending you hugs and restful wishes. XOXOEloisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08974737894674278154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-71225146758385258812009-05-05T12:28:00.000-07:002009-05-05T12:28:00.000-07:00And here I am trying to talk the hubby into #2. :)...And here I am trying to talk the hubby into #2. :) I so remember the weeks I was home along and hubby had gone back to work..with our child. I felt like everyone else was out living life and I was stuck at home. How horrible I know! But it is good to hear another mom talk about the "dark days"! They are real but they do pass! :)<br /><br />Nice to "meet" you."Cookie"https://www.blogger.com/profile/07584685355390220515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-1646327658992947622009-05-04T17:46:00.000-07:002009-05-04T17:46:00.000-07:00hang in, 12 weeks will be here soon, it all gets b...hang in, 12 weeks will be here soon, it all gets better day by day at 12 weeks +. Pinky swearThe Major's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16809162292559019164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-62734034086416725902009-05-03T20:18:00.000-07:002009-05-03T20:18:00.000-07:00I went to work last week with tee tee down my pant...I went to work last week with tee tee down my pants...didn't even care and was too rushed and too tired to change! I would have NEVER done that a few years ago...not even with baby #1. It is so much harder with 2. There is NO Mommy Time! But, I know I will miss these days and so will you. Babies aren't little for long. I just try to remember that when I get frustrated. (Which is often I may add). Our pastor just did a sermon on "if I had one month to live.". It has made me really think. I am going to try to focus on some of his concepts when I get overwhelmed. Let's just hope I don't break my neck on toys on the floor in the meantime! Ha!ilovepinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12013618935921574394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-86142283539435655762009-05-03T18:45:00.000-07:002009-05-03T18:45:00.000-07:00I can't relate at all but know so many of my frien...I can't relate at all but know so many of my friends that have had 'dark days'. It gets better and you do forget, or so they tell me. You have so much support here in blogland and I'm sending hugs your way!Tres Poshe Preppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12566907466810110470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-89126640340369879632009-05-03T12:57:00.000-07:002009-05-03T12:57:00.000-07:00I think some dark days are just a right of passage...I think some dark days are just a right of passage...and when the second child comes along, there is NO rest because you can't sleep when(if)they sleep because the other little darling needs attention. You WILL get through it. Just don't be shy about venting...venting will make it a lot better and we're all here to listen. Wish some of us lived closer so that we could help. Hope the nanny situation will get fixed soon...Belle (from Life of a...)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17948665147630448055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-84041885417796983402009-05-03T07:09:00.000-07:002009-05-03T07:09:00.000-07:00Oh girl! You said it! For some reason I did not ...Oh girl! You said it! For some reason I did not feel this way with baby #1 (probably because I still got plenty of sleep) but with baby #2 I definitely had DARK DAYS!<br /><br />I share this story with all my girlfriends because I, like you, always wonder if what I share may help the next person. <br /><br />I had just come home from something and I was sitting in my car in my driveway about to go inside and relieve the babysitter when I had this fleeting thought... wouldn't it be "easier" if I just kind of rolled down this mountain and (literally) crashed!?!? <br /><br />Needless to say, I scared myself, went inside, and made a doctor's appointment- fearful I had post-partum depression. She said I did not but that I was sleep-deprived. It was rough and I have not forgotten it!<br /><br />Some things that helped me:<br /><br />1. sleep WHENEVER! give up computer/TV/housework/dinner, etc.<br /><br />2. try to get a shower everyday- just put the kids in the bathroom with you if you're worried about their safety. <br /><br />3. get OUTSIDE and take the baby on a walk. You and baby girl will feel a thousand times better when you are in the fresh air and sunshine.<br /><br />4. try to fix yourself a "fun" drink whenever you feed baby. Iced water or crystal light during the day and hot tea or hot chocolate for those late-night feedings- it makes mom feel special and keeps you hydrated.<br /><br />You probably already know all of this- and it is temporary. I just wish I was there to help you out! <br /><br />LOVED receiving her birth announcement! PERFECT!!Olivia: (mostly) Happy Homemakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10806127559226506009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-79129487464491902532009-05-02T22:23:00.000-07:002009-05-02T22:23:00.000-07:00You have a great blog. I willl be back to read mo...You have a great blog. I willl be back to read more...<br /> <br />I am still new to the land of blog, but so loving reading others stories. Everyone has a story and so many of them are so touching....<br />Hope you will stop by for a visit. <br />The May give-away has started and this month there will be 10 winners. I will be blogging from Disney World soon...Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05151128140345216126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-64426775429851502252009-05-02T18:15:00.000-07:002009-05-02T18:15:00.000-07:00I honestly think that in the 50's they had more su...I honestly think that in the 50's they had more support than we do now. It seems like families are more spread out these days. There was so much more neighborhood support too. I remember that all my neighbors were like aunts and uncles. All of us kids were in and out of all the houses like we lived there!<br /> <br />Hang in there - you can do it! I had so many dark days. I stupidly moved away from my friends and family when I was 7 months pregnant. So I was already in the hole in the emotional department. Then 2 weeks after Boogie Boy was born, I started keeping my SIL's 2 year old girl at home with me AND watching her elementary age boy and girl when they got home from school. Talk about stressed out!! I sooo feel you. Just remember, this doesn't last forever. I'll be thinking about you. :)Surf Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08934905597302848116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-24659960561190579362009-05-01T16:17:00.000-07:002009-05-01T16:17:00.000-07:00Hang in there :) I had some serious dark moments ...Hang in there :) I had some serious dark moments when I had my third (only a year and a half apart from my next baby) I found a nice college girl stat to come over 3 days a week to help me. She seriously saved me. I love her and still stay in touch. My angel :)Bridgethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07951152615841618741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-2113576371224006972009-05-01T15:25:00.000-07:002009-05-01T15:25:00.000-07:00Heaven love you for posting this. (Full disclosure...Heaven love you for posting this. (Full disclosure: we are not able to do the child thing.) But we have seen *so* many of our friends go through this, some even suffering the judgmental slights of others. And how our mothers did it is beyond me, totally beyond me.<br /><br />Good for you, and thank you.<br /><br />Sending a hug,<br />tpthe Preppy Princesshttp://thepreppyprincess.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-75771241800692963252009-05-01T14:14:00.000-07:002009-05-01T14:14:00.000-07:00Hang in there! I remember feeling overwhelmed whe...Hang in there! I remember feeling overwhelmed when I went from one to two, and while my older daughter has always been a complete handful, S was the easiest baby - and I still felt like I was going crazy. I was lucky enough to be living on the campus of the prep school where DH taught in WV and had a good mommy friend who also lived on campus and who was amazing about having E over to play frequently. <br /><br />One trick I used from time to time - throw both children into the car and DRIVE. (Not environmentally the best option, but oh well.) The baby would invariably fall asleep and E and I were able to talk or sing together, or go through a drive thru for a treat and talk about the things she saw out the windows. I also always took along a book or a couple magazines on the chance that they would both fall asleep. If that miracle occurred, I headed straight for the Starbucks drive thru and then sat and read in the parking lot of Starbucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-85990832340781906232009-05-01T12:25:00.000-07:002009-05-01T12:25:00.000-07:00i have a 2 1/2 year old and 4 week old twins. (thr...i have a 2 1/2 year old and 4 week old twins. (three boys!) I am kik's sister and read your blog from her...love it! There have been difficult days and nights around here, especially when you finally get one baby to sleep, and the other wakes up screaming. Thinking of you these early days- and sending prayers to you at 3 am feedings!!LPetersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08571584456719979341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-31584682301885774322009-05-01T12:00:00.000-07:002009-05-01T12:00:00.000-07:00Going to "THE DARKSIDE"
I thought I was the only o...Going to "THE DARKSIDE"<br />I thought I was the only one that felt that way. Reading this brings back the first couple of months home with the twins. I really could not believe that NO ONE told me how hard it was. I was so determined not to have any help. Not having a mother or siblings to help..I felt all alone. Many of my friends had night nurses and live in help. My husband, finally had a night nurse come for a week. Then we had someone come in once a week. Once the girls turned two, I did not need any help. I think that the first two years are the HARDEST. Hope you have a fabulous Friday..lots of rest!! xxx meDomestic Divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03310029271559821802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-29781526285522171142009-05-01T10:57:00.000-07:002009-05-01T10:57:00.000-07:00Oh my friend...
Thank you for your honesty and sh...Oh my friend...<br /><br />Thank you for your honesty and sharing your feelings. All of us have shared those terrible dark days of motherhood. <br />Please keep sharing your thoughts on this blog. <br />I am sending up some prayers for you.<br />Hang in there!!BroncoMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702267283331662045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-22938973058461062672009-04-30T19:04:00.000-07:002009-04-30T19:04:00.000-07:00I would dread the night... I could handle exhausti...I would dread the night... I could handle exhaustion during the day, but the night was another story. In my head I knew that the period of time would end, but I couldn't feel it so it made it seem that much longer. It's also tougher in some ways with the second because you have to entertain and be there for your son. I remember going to bed (crashing out) one night and wishing I was still pregnant so that I could go to sleep. Stay strong... it will end soon.Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10198477292452749031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-6382976435692750002009-04-30T17:42:00.000-07:002009-04-30T17:42:00.000-07:00Beautifully written. As a first time mother, I ap...Beautifully written. As a first time mother, I appreciate the honesty and really enjoyed reading the comments to this post. Thanks so much for sharing this!icing on the cakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15893802785797179297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-7385505245537010622009-04-30T17:17:00.000-07:002009-04-30T17:17:00.000-07:00Thinking of you. My youngest one is about to turn ...Thinking of you. My youngest one is about to turn one. I do remember having those dark days but luckily for me I have already forgotten those days. However, I will never forget the 'dark days" I had with my first born b/c I was living in a new town, I didn't know anyone, it was winter and she was a miserable baby. It was so hard! I feel you pain and I am thinking of you. It will pass, and it will pass too quickly. I am a wreck my baby is turning 1.James Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13348211707583226204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-6427560066255492322009-04-30T16:32:00.000-07:002009-04-30T16:32:00.000-07:00I'm going to say this with lots of love and respec...I'm going to say this with lots of love and respect... Suck it up girlfriend! We've all been there, without a nanny, mind you. And we survived just as you will. You live a charmed life, rembember how lucky you are and get over yourself. Craig and Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13546182118062268846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-86286743798982105682009-04-30T16:25:00.000-07:002009-04-30T16:25:00.000-07:00Oh hugs!!!
I've been there, done that. That reflu...Oh hugs!!!<br /><br />I've been there, done that. That reflux makes it even worse.<br /><br />I don't know how people have 4 and 5 children. Really I don't. I can only handle my one.Julie {Angry Julie Monday}https://www.blogger.com/profile/10482539881072896606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-62119892586534404852009-04-30T15:58:00.000-07:002009-04-30T15:58:00.000-07:00I'm not a mom yet, but love this post! I have som...I'm not a mom yet, but love this post! I have some friends who are already moms and only one has ever talked openly about the "dark days"!<br /><br />ps. I had to laugh at "exhausted hag who needs an eyebrow wax"! You are too much :)Always Organizinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06057541955302935728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-47345888417811421632009-04-30T14:58:00.000-07:002009-04-30T14:58:00.000-07:00Hang tight...it will get better.Hang tight...it will get better.PaperCourthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03150541717030786675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-60661085029735054622009-04-30T14:19:00.000-07:002009-04-30T14:19:00.000-07:00I went on zoloft about 12 hours after telling Husb...I went on zoloft about 12 hours after telling Husband that we needed to "run away...hide...Montana Ranch... no one could find us.......". Mine was morphed more into a weird social anxiety than an actual boo-hoo-depression. Some weird stuff.<br />But, speaking of old times, my Dad was taken away from his mother and sent to live with his Auntie for the first FIVE MONTHS of his life. They used to call the baby blues "melancholia" back then. Ha! Dad always had such a warm place in his heart for Auntie. And she always thought of him as her own.<br />But it was all done very hush-hush those days.<br />Thanks the Lord we are able to just spill it and never look back!<br />See you soon. xoxox, TessaTessanoreply@blogger.com