tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post2187728807252907912..comments2023-11-24T09:51:17.914-08:00Comments on One Fabulous Mom: Independent Woman Week- WorkThe Mrs.http://www.blogger.com/profile/05665800276194590859noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-11835959908938331762008-07-10T18:21:00.000-07:002008-07-10T18:21:00.000-07:00Great post! You always get us thinking! Hope you'v...Great post! You always get us thinking! Hope you've had a great week. <BR/><BR/>KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316553683221058312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-44769903986798498892008-07-09T11:45:00.000-07:002008-07-09T11:45:00.000-07:00This a long-suffering debate that will go on a lot...This a long-suffering debate that will go on a lot longer. I went through it for many years with anger, bitterness, and lots of flowing tears. I'm on the other side now, since I'm enjoying -ehem,... (shhh).... 55 years of ladyhood. I can so relate to the "stay at-home-Mom/Working-Mom" debate. Forgive me, but let me compare this to one of the many "Katrinaisms" we on the Gulf Coast sadly had to learn to accept and live with.... "THE WORST THING THAN BEING HERE IS NOT BEING HERE!" Don't know the origin of this saying, and would like to give credit where crdit is due. But it is such a universal truism for us all to remember. We all want the best of both worlds and sadly, life does not always allow us to have said above. Somehow, MOMMIES, you need to find your own balance, no matter how unfair it is. Do the best you can possibly do for your sweet children for and yourself. You will be truly rewarded in the future.Lamp Tramphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12419002643387603303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-51736426932387067092008-07-08T18:59:00.000-07:002008-07-08T18:59:00.000-07:00I deal with these issues everyday! You are right....I deal with these issues everyday! You are right....no happy median and not enough suppport!!!!ilovepinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12013618935921574394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-40300378334979681872008-07-08T18:12:00.000-07:002008-07-08T18:12:00.000-07:00I really enjoyed reading this post. Very informati...I really enjoyed reading this post. Very informative - and what an eye opener! Although I LOVE my job, my priority has always been to have a family. But balancing is going to be so hard when the time comes to start a family. I'll keep you posted on our outcome (it's going to be a while, I think :) ). <BR/><BR/>And I LOVE your new header, he is such a beautiful little boy! :)Mrs LSLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01104841675711943208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-49092476490251810282008-07-08T13:14:00.000-07:002008-07-08T13:14:00.000-07:00The debate between stay at home vs. go back to wor...The debate between stay at home vs. go back to work is a hard one... I would like to think I already know what I would do, but I am sure that all changes when you are holding your little one for the first time.Mrs.Preppyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07417716598795374874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-89852631587092943282008-07-08T11:23:00.000-07:002008-07-08T11:23:00.000-07:00I agree - that's why I think it's dangerous to say...I agree - that's why I think it's dangerous to say independence is only based on money/career. Independence is much more than that.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I feel guilty that I don't contribute to our finances. The only way I affect our finances is to consume them. My husband has the sole burden of being the breadwinner. I just have to remind myself that this is what I wanted to do - be with my kids. I'm lucky I had a CHOICE in the matter.<BR/><BR/>Also, while I think it's disappointing how our maternity leave stacks up against other countries, if you compare our tax rates to France, Germany and Italy, you'll see they're much more heavily taxed. I'm a liberal and therefore don't view taxes as evil, but many in this country don't agree and would never want to pay 50% of their income to taxes so women could stay home longer.<BR/><BR/>Good topics this week!Tippyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01438443736653419988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-14715055108810273612008-07-08T11:15:00.000-07:002008-07-08T11:15:00.000-07:00I've worked full-time since the age of 16. When I...I've worked full-time since the age of 16. When I had my son in 2005 I took 7 weeks off, all paid by saving up vacation and sick time. FMLA doesn't apply in my small company, and I was under pressure by my boss to return to work ASAP. When I left my tiny 7 week old baby at daycare that first day I WAS a little pissed about the expectations of the working world and the pressure moms are under. I think even if moms do take 12 weeks (or more) off, there's always that underlying subliminal pressure about work awaiting them to return. I have no opinion what-so-ever about moms who stay home vs. moms who work. We're all in this together. However, I've been judged harshly on many occasions by "Christians" who think mothers should stay home to raise their kids. One lady even told me working moms are the bane of society. Ugh.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786838392389718536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-40164746990590292122008-07-08T11:07:00.000-07:002008-07-08T11:07:00.000-07:00You are a great writer! I really enjoyed reading ...You are a great writer! I really enjoyed reading that. I am not sure what I am going to do - but I love my fiance and I have faith in us. I do think that women don't support each other as much as they should. The women before us worked so hard to get us equal rights and yet women still fight among each other - whats up with that???? Anyways - I really enjoyed this post. You really are a fabulous mom :)Etiquettely Correcthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06699537161185227422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-52348440514263639842008-07-08T09:35:00.000-07:002008-07-08T09:35:00.000-07:00When I was pregnant and working FT I was so pissed...When I was pregnant and working FT I was so pissed when I read about maternity leaves all over the world! I took 12 weeks leave both times, but it's hard and you aren't paid the entire time. However, now at home it's hard, too! Even though it's all our money, I miss that money I was contributing and how it made me feel. I so want to find a "good" part time job working at home so if anyone knows of one... :) I really am starting to feel like I'm missing out on something. Even though I know I've gained almost 2 years' worth of wonderful memories with my kids.Pink in a sea of bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15530416819202521068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-83710151513143732252008-07-08T09:33:00.000-07:002008-07-08T09:33:00.000-07:00oh yeah- i hear ya (with the way we're treated for...oh yeah- i hear ya (with the way we're treated for giving birth to the future of our country). Don't get me started on that one!<BR/><BR/>I hate all that hoopla about the SAHM and the WOOHM. You do what you have to do for your sanity and survival. I love working part time. It gives me my own moohla, have time to spend with the kid, have time to spend on my own- 'cause I'm selfish that way- after all, I'm an 'only' child. Anyone can feel free to judge, I'm having a grand ole' time! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-33066784887309664522008-07-08T09:14:00.000-07:002008-07-08T09:14:00.000-07:00First, congratulations on your blog - I enjoy it d...First, congratulations on your blog - I enjoy it daily! Secondly, I just wanted to add that Canada has an amazing maternity/paternity leave system: 1 year paid leave, to be divided by the parents. Usually, mothers take the full year and fathers take a few weeks off using their vacation time. The mother can also add 6 months unpaid at the close of the year, while retaining complete job security. Plus, the daycare program is subsidized too - it's $5 a day per child. Originally form Montreal in Canada, I now reside in LA, and am a new mom to a 4 month-old boy. I'm a SAHM (also an artist on the side) for now, but am quite nostalgic for the respect mothers enjoy in Canada. I agree with you: that the system is set up wrong. And, I believe that at the core of this problem is a disregard for women's rights.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00424167602035338075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-82081432096347301782008-07-08T08:18:00.000-07:002008-07-08T08:18:00.000-07:00Right now I have no idea how I am going to handle ...Right now I have no idea how I am going to handle a family and a job. When the time comes, I hope to have a flexible work schedule. It is too bad we don't have better programs in place for new families in the US.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing a thought provoking post. Enjoy your day!Lauren @ Adventures of a Southern Newlywedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05745032315605677916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-25895837420578370762008-07-08T08:04:00.000-07:002008-07-08T08:04:00.000-07:00Pissed? yes. 10 yrs ago when I had my first son, t...Pissed? yes. 10 yrs ago when I had my first son, there was NO paid leave for a choreographer. During the days I taught at a private school to help supplement my normal income. My other job was to travel and create and after an emergency and messy c-section, that was not possible. The first weeks of his life where not blissful carefree new mother, but the "I'm so worried and stressed about money that I feel like I'm going to die" mother. Once we had our second son, Hunny was way more financially stable and it wasn't quite so stressful. However, I went back to work way too early both times, wearing layers of spandex on my incisions because it felt like my guts were falling out. :) Again, with no paid leave. With both pregnancies, I was tap dancing on a Thursday night and giving birth the following afternoon. Something is wrong with this picture...Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14216941806907177541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-40754807536015795802008-07-08T07:19:00.000-07:002008-07-08T07:19:00.000-07:00left you something on my blogleft you something on my blogFar From Perfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15080917216908941167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-56816738993656124032008-07-08T06:44:00.000-07:002008-07-08T06:44:00.000-07:00Ugh! Yes, the work/home balance is tricky.... And,...Ugh! Yes, the work/home balance is tricky.... And, hello, the "leave" that new moms get here in the U.S. is rough. My work gives weeks paid and then of course included the FMLA, but, that is unpaid, and, my work is touch and go as to if you can take more time off (unpaid, of course).... We don't have children yet, but, are hoping to change that soon, but, it is hard to think about having only 12 weeks and then going right back to work--hello!!.... Man....The Shabby Princesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08572623388995262210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6837298353619193887.post-69865640362163152842008-07-08T06:19:00.000-07:002008-07-08T06:19:00.000-07:00did you see the article in the times about google ...did you see the article in the times about google and daycare ??? very interesting.justmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05081885076553861768noreply@blogger.com